many people seem to take far too lightly and
for granted these days. Something some of
them feel they should do to win acceptance
from people and society. These days’ people
look at the package and never the content,
forgetting that marriage should be a life time
commitment of two strangers. In some cases
the marriage may workout, like, Charles and
Diane, Tunde and Wummie. But most of the
time it falls like a park of cards, because as
people are rushing to get in, people are
rushing to get out, at an alarming rate. Kai!!
These days break ups and divorce has
become the trend as soon as the honey
Moon is over. People use to think that
divorce rate is only high amongst celebrities,
but now, across board, couples are falling
asunder, going under the pressure of a very
bad decision , just because they Must Marry.
In these hard times, people are blowing and
burning pots of money on very fancy weddings that
really don't last after the honey moon. In this age,
some parents still pressure their daughters in
getting married early. It's like, once your girl
crosses the 30yrs bracket, they start to panic,
getting anxious and putting pressure on their girl to
get married, like it is that easy. She just can't go to
the market and buy a husband, or can she? When
the poor girl insists on finding her dream man, she
is accused of being unserious. Parents please
learn to back off joor, it's not by force. After all, are
they the ones who will leave with the spouse?
There is nothing wrong with waiting for the right
person, because if it is the razzmatazz of the
wedding things that you enjoy, go ahead and throw
yourself a big nonstop party for a whole week.
After all, weddings are just one day event, but a
marriage is supposed to be a life time thing. I know
that weddings are fun, romantic and you can finally
tell your girlfriends, boyfriends or your sugar
daddy's that you have finally captured your own
‘mugu’ . But has this guy been tried and tested?
Dating and courting is a different matter from ‘Till
Death Do You Part’. Living with one human being
for the rest of your life. My sister look the thing
well oooo. Bebe , do you have an idea how your guy
functions in rough weather? When reality bites, is
he calm or does he freak out? Do you share the
same interest in some things? Bebe , before you
rush into this marriage, it is important to learn
where your partner stands on the bigger issues of
your life together. Do you have the same values?
Sit him down and have a long talk about these and
other issues that are of importance to you, you
may discover that chances of a long lasting
marriage could be slimmer; women are intuitively
wired to pick up these things. Are you a learner?
For me, I got hooked up with a woman I never saw
coming and a woman I will never let go. When I
met my wife, she was not even a girlfriend or a
lover. I liked her physically, because she had and
still have curves that men would die for, but she
was never my idea of a wife. She kept hanging
around like other beautiful women around me; it
was more or less a platonic relationship. All the
time I didn't know I was under the microscope of
the FBI and the CIA. She was to tell me all this
after our marriage. Even though we dated for about
3yrs, in my wildest dream I never saw her coming
till one morning after sleeping over, she woke me
up, looked me straight into my sleepy eyes and
demanded that I marry her in the next few days or
she will leave me. Wow! Before then, no one ever
threatened me like that, no one ever gave me
ultimatums. Who born them? Me CharlyBoy? Little
did I know that this woman for years has been
doing research on me, this woman has seen me
‘finish’, figured out how to arrest and deal with me.
When I was much younger, I had a very violent
temper, I was obnoxious. And she had witnessed
me a few times in my rage with other women.
"Ain't you afraid that I will hurt or harm you" to that
she answered, "you can never hurt or harm me
because I will never give you a reason to"
hummmmmm!!! Oh! See finish.
Bebe , it's easy to know what you are getting into.
If in doubt, investigate, set exams for the guy. I
believe women are emotionally smarter than men.
You must know who you want to marry, it's
important for your happiness. You don't deserve
scrap especially if you are hardworking, intelligent,
progressive and forward looking. Investigate him
from all angles, don't be in a rush joor. You don't
deserve that heartache because the way
marriages are crashing, it's making me catch cold.
With the way things are going, very soon we will be
throwing divorce parties and inviting friends and
well-wishers to celebrate divorce anniversaries.
They will choose asoebe , hire a big hall, with Dbanj
as the entertainer and Julius Agu as the MC. Even
questions like, "when are you getting your divorce"
will be the buzz.
So if you know you can't handle the pressure,
remain single. If the man is still under
investigation, please take your time, don't rush. If
you know that you are too horny to be faithful, biko
remain single and have a ball. If you can't endure
bad weather from time to time, stay in your
father’s house joor. Never get married out of
desperation or because other people are getting
married. If you want a beautiful home, like mine,
examine your choice of a life partner, there are a
lot of gigolos out there preying on desperate babes
like you. But show them say you pass them. No be
you?.
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